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What is it really like to be married to a blogger? 

April 24, 2017 246 Comments

I thought that after marriage I  would settle down to the quiet life. Toast & tea in bed, The Good Wife episodes in the evening, adding my wife to my car insurance and occasionally  picking up nail polish remover after work. Life was peaceful and I was content. All was going well until….

*cue dramatic music*

SHE STARTED A BLOG.

You’ve done a perfunctory scroll through this post, expecting to see funny gifs and found none so your suspicions were aroused. Now you’re absolutely sure that this blog has been hijacked. Well I’m here to calm your fears- Panda is still in charge.

Most of you know me as Fox, Panda’s behind-the-scenes husband.

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I’ve been complaining mentioning  recently about what it’s like to be married to a blogger so Panda asked me to jot it down and turn it into a post. At first I was nervous. If you know my wife, you know that she uses words like “impeccable” and “preposterous” as part of her daily vocabulary. But she said she wouldn’t have asked me if she didn’t think I was up to it and after a while I got into the swing of things. Admittedly, this post might lack the sass and fire of my wife but if she is the spicy curry in life then I’m definitely a soothing mango lassi.

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So if your significant other is thinking about starting a blog, get out while you still can! Just kidding… I think?

It takes a certain kind of person to hang out with a blogger. And it takes a crazy person to go out to eat with a blogger. But ultimately, you must be a complete lunatic to be married to a blogger!  Why, you may ask? What is so crazy about bloggers? Well read on…

Here are some of the things you can expect when you’re married to a blogger:

1. You will be expected to be an expert on everything.

From basic survival strategies to advanced photography to an instant ability to drive any vehicle in any country. Being married to a blogger means that you are constantly venturing out of any conceivable comfort zone. Like when I landed in Kuwait and Panda hands me car keys and says, “Can you drive?” Uh… in a country I have never been to and on a side of the road I am unfamiliar with? Oh boy. What about when I had to suddenly become a photography expert when we were at the Beijing Olympic Stadium and a certain Panda expressed a desire for very particular  shot involving silhouettes and a brightly lit stadium? Suddenly I had to assemble a DSLR, get the tripod out, adjust its height, fasten the camera, fiddle with the shutter and aperture speeds… Just to emphasise, I am an architect by profession. Everything I know about photography I have learnt through trial and error (and Panda’s annoyance when we don’t achieve the picture she wants).

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I am pretty happy with the way this photo turned out though.

As daunting as it may sound, this does give an adventurous soul, plenty of opportunity to find joy in the challenges and experiences that your partner gets you involved in. However for someone less enthusiastic about hiking for kilometres to get the perfect sunset shot, or braving the streets of India on a motorcycle while dodging cows, this life can be a completely overwhelming experience.

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Climbing some precarious rocks to get this fiery sunset shot in Mauritius!
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This was in the middle of a traffic circle… I am surprised I made it out alive after dodging Korean traffic for this picture.

2. A trip somewhere does not equal a holiday.

I’m laughing a little at this one because I used to be a fool who thought this way. I thought holiday=relaxing. Nope, not when your wife is a blogger. Extensive research goes into planning what activities will get done. Yes there are ALWAYS activities when your wife is a thrill junkie and a blogger. Let’s look at this picture of Panda zip lining through Mehrangah Fort in Jodhpur at sunset. Did you know that you could zip line through a fort in India? Even people living in Jodhpur that we spoke to had no idea. But somehow, my never-been-to-India-before wife found out and booked it. And you can’t imagine on what precipice I was standing on, my life in my hands just to take this perfect photo!

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Trips are usually meticulously planned. Activities, adventures and dining experiences are methodically categorized by order of priority and most importantly, how it will be portrayed in the blog.

On one hand, it’s like having your own personal travel agent. You will be guaranteed to see the best sights at the perfect times, find and make the cheapest deals and eat the most sumptuous food on offer.

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Just some of the international cuisine we have enjoyed in different places over the years

However this level of organisation and planning leaves little room for spontaneity, and also means that you inadvertently become the outlet when things don’t go as planned. Be prepared for that!

3. Everything takes twice as long.

You know those stunning shots you like on the Expat Panda instagram account? They aren’t happy snaps. It takes time to set up a shot- perhaps we need to wait for people to move out of the picture or for the light to hit the subject just right. More often I need to adjust my position or get Panda into some unnatural pose to take the picture she wants.

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She insisted on this picture despite the rain. She is literally the only dry element in this picture.

My wife is exceptionally beautiful. Maybe all husbands think this way but I’m being purely objective. Some earrings, a bit of lipstick and she is ready to head out the door. I’m never hanging around waiting for her to get ready (in fact it’s usually the other way around but that’s for another post). But, for all the time we save with her not painting her face in make up or styling her hair, we make up for it in photo taking!

Like the example above. Since everything is blog related, it HAD to be perfect. This was a simple post brekkie photo which turned into an impromptu photo shoot including props, extras and the occasional wardrobe change to get that one perfect shot!

Look, I am a simple guy- I always aspired to be one of those couples I would see in the magazines, relaxing poolside. Now I realise just how much effort goes into creating those pictures!

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Like this photo above which was taken in Thailand at sunset. It looks effortless but it involves a tripod, using a timer, running in between takes and adjusting position a million times! You can’t imagine how long all of this takes. I know lots of men complain about being an Instagram Husband but there is a silver lining too- when your blogging wife is a photo perfectionist,  you get also get wonderful photos of yourself…

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Panda captured this great moment of me being Batman as I launched myself into Oribi Gorge, South Africa
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Looking out over The Great Wall in Beijing, China
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This Thai baby elephant came over to interrupt my conversation with Panda in case I had bananas for him!

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Taking in the views over Lesotho at Sani Pass

4. The blog becomes your pet/child.

Posts are planned months in advance, activities are coordinated to keep the flow going, stats are monitored with an alarming level of attention… the blogging wife nurtures and cares for her blog the way a new mother would for her child. All conversations eventually lead to speaking of the blog, all activities are centred around how it can be expressed in the blog. Eventually the blogger doesn’t run the blog, but in fact, the blog dictates the next step.

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A two hour hike preceded this photo!

It sounds all consuming but it’s kind of like our pet project- the child we don’t yet have. We always have something to discuss and as resident proof-checker, it keeps me on my toes. When Panda and I lived together, there was never a dull moment and our activities were literally logged down on a Where’s Wally wall calendar. I remember when we went through a milkshake tasting stage all in the name of this particular post. I wanted to give up dairy for a long time after that.

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Our sisters were with us so we ordered a few freakshakes to get great pictures… but of course it was way too much and we all felt sick afterward.

With Panda and I living apart, the blog allows me to engage with her life in a way that isn’t possible through mere texts and video calls. Although, I will say that as her husband, I enjoy hearing the behind the scenes stories and reading how they’re portrayed on the blog!

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We waited an hour (in the car because it was too windy outside) for this sunset shot in Cape Town!

5. Blog envy is real

It doesn’t take long to realise that as the partner of a blogger, everything comes after the blog, from future plans, to friends and family, and especially yourself. At first, you may find yourself actually feeling jealous toward this thing that has taken over your partner’s life; however you have to learn to share your partner with this entity that is her blog. She needs her space, her independence, her room to grow and evolve with the blog. Ideally, you make yourself part of this evolution and make the blog part of your life too.

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Panda looking out over a portion of Victoria Falls. This was her relaxing after our 15km walk from Zimbabwe into Zambia…

When your wife has a passion that makes her happy, you will be happy too. Being married to a blogger, especially a free spirited-wanderlust-chasing-travel blogger, means that you’re married to someone who is a home and an adventure all at once. The best advice I can give to anyone who is married to a blogger or even better, soon to be married to one is to always remember-

Happy wife= happy life!

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Not taken by either Panda or I but wonder why I love it so much? Hmm…

In conclusion,

Don’t ask her to be a rock

for you to lean upon

Instead build her wings

And point her to the sky,

And she will teach you both how to fly

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As soon as I saw her, I knew an adventure was going to happen… although I didn’t know it would last a lifetime!

Fly freely foxes

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246 Comments

  • Sarah Berthe April 24, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    I will ask my husband to read this!

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:06 am

      I hope he enjoyed the read!

      • Sarah Berthe April 26, 2017 at 7:10 am

        He was relieved to find out that he was not alone! He had a good read thank you.

        • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:29 pm

          Happy Sunday dearie

  • prettyflyforawhitemom April 24, 2017 at 3:12 pm

    Such a sweet and endearing post. What a great connection you two have!

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:06 am

      Ah thank you so much for your kind words 😊

  • justbluedutch April 24, 2017 at 7:58 pm

    What a great post! I actually sent a link of this to my husband! 🤗
    Wonderfully written,i really enjoyed reading this one.

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:06 am

      Thanks I will pass the message on 😊 Hope your hubby enjoyed the read!

    • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:29 pm

      Yes it was😀😀

  • frannnelli April 25, 2017 at 5:00 am

    I love this post….what a great viewpoint 🙂

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:05 am

      Ah thank you for your feedback!

    • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:37 pm

      It sure was

  • Bharti Chopra April 25, 2017 at 7:57 am

    Aren’t we blessed to have husbands who understand our passion? Such a sweet gesture by Fox to write a post about his view point. He should be given due credit for the patience and beautiful photographs.
    I’m similarly passionate about cross stitching. When we went to Scotland, I identified a store where I can buy some stuff which was on a city on the way from Edinburgh to Stirling. We took the train to Linlithglow (where the store was) , dragged our luggage to the store, shopped for 15 mins and then took the next train to Stirling. All this to just experience what it feels like to be in a real cross stitch store. When we told our cousins whom we were visiting in Stirling, the look on their face told us they couldn’t understand why take the hassle…

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:05 am

      Yes we are absolutely blessed with these men! Your husband is seriously a saint! I admire your dedication to your hobby 😊

    • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:30 pm

      I sure agree with you👏👏

  • Siyana April 25, 2017 at 3:35 pm

    I very much enjoyed reading this! Loved all the photos, and the way everything is being narrated. Subscribed immediately! Just one question – where is this picture taken, when both of you are standing on the top of the sea? x

    • Expat Panda April 26, 2017 at 7:04 am

      Ah thank you so much! That particular picture was taken in Cape Town after hiking up the Lion’s Head mountain. If you haven’t been to South Africa, you need to plan a trip!

      • Siyana April 26, 2017 at 5:01 pm

        Thank you so much for your reply. The most interesting thing is that I dreamed about this place last summer and have been in search for it ever since! Can you imagine!

  • Sonyboy Fugaban April 29, 2017 at 5:14 pm

    My wife can so relate to this…thanks for this article. I’m gonna give her the link and command her to read it. 🙂

    • Expat Panda April 30, 2017 at 6:59 am

      Haha thanks for the read!

  • Alexander Pompee April 29, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    As a newbie to blogging, I love this post. Great work!

    • Expat Panda April 30, 2017 at 6:58 am

      Thank you so much for reading!

  • Julz April 29, 2017 at 9:53 pm

    Am driving my husband nuts with the shops I just need to have a look at, the picture I have to take or the place I really need to check out, like now, now – not tomorrow 🙂 liked your post a lot!

  • Blonde On The Move May 3, 2017 at 4:49 am

    Such a lovely post! I am going to make The Boy read it so he knows how easy he has it! Also, I wish we could post photos in the comments to show you the very different ways we tackled Oribi Gorge!!!!!

    • Expat Panda May 3, 2017 at 9:17 am

      Haha Oribi Gorge was an experience for everyone who went there! You mean The Boy has it easy? I won’t tell my husband haha!

      • Blonde On The Move May 3, 2017 at 9:23 am

        The Boy has it super easy! But mine is a rambling blog, not a professional one! I don’t have the patience for everything I’ve just read 😂

  • Aarti Kamath May 3, 2017 at 8:38 pm

    LOL… Good post, I will check if my husband feels this way.. haha!… Btw, we did enjoy ziplining at Jodhpur fort.. It was the best way to see the fort! ;)…

    • Expat Panda May 3, 2017 at 9:07 pm

      Ah I’m so happy someone else did it too! Yes it was the best way to see Jodhpur from above. Do let me know if your hubby agrees with mine 😂

  • Otto May 4, 2017 at 3:21 pm

    I really appreciate this post. I’ve been looking everywhere for this! Thank goodness I found it on Bing. You have made my day! Thank you again

  • ispyprettyplaces May 6, 2017 at 8:13 am

    I loved reading this! My husband feels exactly the same way. I cried with laughter at #2. Although, I have to admit it’s not necessarily ‘blog related’. I don’t really have the blog in the forefront of my mind but I do suffer from serious FoMo. And so I go through the same meticulous planning of trips. I’m also not too bad with the photos but I do often ask hubby to get out the way lol. A very funny post!

    • Expat Panda May 6, 2017 at 8:17 am

      I don’t have the blog at the forefront of any experience either but hubby begs to differ! It’s just about not having any regrets when you leave a place! I do love my photos to be perfect so I’ll give him that one 😂 Glad you enjoyed!

      • ispyprettyplaces June 17, 2017 at 4:19 pm

        Totally here you on the no regrets. Hence the FoMo (fear of missing out!).

  • Barry O'Leary May 8, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    Great post. Will try to get my wife to read this, but suspect she might think it’s me tricking her to read another of my posts. Life is intense as a blogger and my partner is a great support. She’s there when I’m getting confused about my audience, when I want to change my design, but most of all she gives me so much material to write about; she’s a funny lass. Glad I bumped into your blog, Thanks.

    • Expat Panda May 9, 2017 at 12:33 pm

      Your comment was hilarious! I think bloggers have the most patient partners, either that or they are just super tolerant. Thanks for stopping by and glad you enjoyed the post.

      • Barry O'Leary May 9, 2017 at 3:42 pm

        Thanks for your lovely words. You are the third person to say that I’m hilarious since I was 23 years old (yes I’ve been keeping count). Seriously though, great blog. Will be stopping by again don’t you worry!

  • Strictly Lighthearted May 14, 2017 at 10:30 pm

    I’m definitely making my husband read this! The biggest change he has seen in me since I started blogging is I no longer ask the server ‘What would you recommend’ when we go out to eat … Instead I now ask ‘What is instagram worthy on the menu?’ 🙈😁 … Great pics btw! 🙂

  • whydubaisite May 25, 2017 at 4:58 am

    Definitely love this!

  • Mignon Cobra May 28, 2017 at 6:59 am

    Such an adorable reading!! I loved it!

  • rjfaithnlove June 4, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    Very nice … indeed !

    plz go through my post too
    https://rjfaithnlove.wordpress.com/2017/06/04/the-mind-food/

  • shalini June 4, 2017 at 4:16 pm

    Beautiful….

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:30 pm

      Thank you for reading!

      • shalini June 4, 2017 at 7:32 pm

        It was just too good… Thank you for writing it so well with so much love.. Fox and panda make a good pair, never knew that… Hehe.. God bless

    • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:31 pm

      Is really beautiful. Happy Sunday dear

      • shalini June 4, 2017 at 8:31 pm

        Happy Sunday night it’s 11 pm

        • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:35 pm

          What country are you in

        • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:35 pm

          It’s 6pm in Nigeria

          • shalini June 4, 2017 at 8:36 pm

            Cool I am from Mumbai, india

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:36 pm

            Okay. That’s cool. Could you check out my blog please??

          • shalini June 4, 2017 at 8:39 pm

            I was reading that… What do u write about.. There is some pocket picking in the bar, I could not understand

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:43 pm

            My character didn’t pocket pick actually, he was imagining it, then he began to do what he was imagining, his hand was on the hollow of the other guy

          • shalini June 4, 2017 at 8:44 pm

            Oh it was a story.. Thats cool.. Now ur blog doesn’t open. Can u send me a link

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:51 pm

            knwawuike@gmail.com

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:54 pm

            That earlier link was my email address sorry

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:54 pm
          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:54 pm

            This is my link

          • shalini June 4, 2017 at 8:58 pm

            Thanks.. But sometimes it opens sometimes it doesn’t

          • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 9:02 pm

            OK sorry check out this one.

          • shalini June 4, 2017 at 9:17 pm

            I have followed your blog..

          • crosscountrylifeblog June 5, 2017 at 4:40 pm

            I’m going cross country in two weeks for a total of 6 months. Here’s my blog if ya want to check IT out too crosscountrylifeblog.com

          • shalini June 5, 2017 at 4:44 pm

            I did that… I have commented on 1 of your posts too

  • isaacsparro June 4, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    Hello
    Pls am a beginner Pls teach me more about blogging or how to become a blogger. Thank you

    • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:34 pm

      Bro just read other people post and write yours. Don’t be ashamed of how u blog at first; people might not like it at first, Don’t give up, and soon u will make a good blogger

    • crosscountrylifeblog June 5, 2017 at 4:46 pm

      Do you mind if I teach? I’m not the blog owner but I do think there’s a few good tips that I have. Don’t read the rest of this if you don’t want my help (I will not be offended AT ALL)

      1- try to post somewhat consistently and tell your bloggers when you’ll post and what day of week if it’s not every day or every other day
      2-share your blog with some of your friends, don’t be shy… they willl consistently support you and destroy the negative comments with their support
      3- catch the readers eye with your homepage, and try to add pictures to your more cool posts… they always tend to catch more eyes of the viewers

      You can always contact me in the comments section of one of my posts at crosscountrylifeblog.com if you would like to know a little more, but once again I will NOT be offended! 😁👍🏻

  • isaacsparro June 4, 2017 at 4:35 pm

    Hope to hear from you soon

  • mywords331 June 4, 2017 at 5:10 pm

    It’s really an interesting post and good to know how it goes after marrying a blogger.
    Stay blessed.

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:31 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • compartment11 June 4, 2017 at 5:18 pm

    Reblogged this on Compartment 11.

  • Nusrath Sariffo'deen June 4, 2017 at 5:49 pm

    Love love love this Panda! I’m not married and I just started blogging, but I’ll make sure to share this with my future hubby (for him to know what he’s getting himself into). Haha! I seriously adore this post! You are really lucky, and so is your hubby. You compliment each other wonderfully in the pictures (I love the wedding picture)! I hope you have an even more wonderful wedded (and blogging) life! ❤️

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:32 pm

      AH your comment made me smile so much! Yes we do complement each other despite the craziness!Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • wakimari June 4, 2017 at 6:09 pm

    This is awesome

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:32 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Julie Cao June 4, 2017 at 6:13 pm

    Interesting reading and as a blogger I can totally related to all of this, and When a blogger meets the other blogger, it is like meeting a soul mate, and their marriage is never boring.

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:33 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • kareninspirational.com June 4, 2017 at 6:18 pm

    Aww…So sweet! An interesting piece. Your wife is lucky to ‘ve such a supportive husband. Those pictures are beautiful. Thanks for sharing- author.

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:33 pm

      Yes I am so lucky to have such a supportive husband 🙂 Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • becomingdeutsch June 4, 2017 at 6:22 pm

    I love this!!!! The line “… this level of organisation and planning leaves little room for spontaneity, and also means that you inadvertently become the outlet when things don’t go as planned” had me smiling as my husband has told me this countless times. I think I should ask him what his thoughts are about me blogging since he stalks my blog. 🙂 This post made my day!

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:34 pm

      Yes that line is a very honest one because its true that we lash out on our loved ones even when things are not their fault! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • agnuswalters June 4, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    Hi, I’m amulya, and I absolutely LOVE the idea of all the travelling and food tasting you guys do on a regular basis! Sometimes, I wish medicine wasn’t such a long course! Is there any two day adventure though? That’s the max I mostly get.
    It’s wonderful to see so many places and things captured and compiled into one blog! Makes it easy for me to keep up 😁cheers!

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:35 pm

      Hey girl, we all went through those long years of studying and writing exams… you have to go through the hard stuff to get to the exciting travel and food inspired bits! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

      • agnuswalters June 4, 2017 at 7:37 pm

        Whether it was intended to inspire, I don’t know but I feel very fuelled because of what you said! I’m working towards being able to do all that! May I ask what you studied?

        • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:39 pm

          Four long years of psychology, two years for my teaching qualification followed by two years of full time work while studying for my Masters in Educational Psychology. I FEEL YOU don’t worry!!

          • agnuswalters June 4, 2017 at 7:43 pm

            Hahaha I LOVE PSYCHOLOGY!!! Within my field, I absolutely enjoy the postings I get for psychiatry! I know they’re different but both involve so much talking I absolutely love it!
            Thanks for the motivation ma’am!

  • Chai and Lipstick June 4, 2017 at 7:23 pm

    This article is so true and so funny! I actually realize ever since I started blogging, the blog is become my baby. I always take my partner along with me in this big adventure.. loved the post sharing it with blogger friends I know! 😘😘😘

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 7:35 pm

      I am so glad you can relate! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 7:25 pm

    Close call

    I went to the bar to watch the champions league finals. The bar was a long wide hall, with a  very long wooden seat arranged in straight lines. The long wooden seat was what we used in the  law faculty block. I had come earlier, and just very few people were there, so I left.

    By the time I returned, the bar was crowded. I paid the owner of the bar  100 Naria, before he let me in. The room smelt like boiled dirty gym socks. I prayed in my heart that nobody will fart, because that be horrible, as it will combine with the smell that came from the cluster of so many people.

    The match took forever before it started officially. A musician, by name Alicia keys performed live. There were so many other performances, but I wasn’t listening. Like others, I couldn’t wait for the match to start. 

    Soon it started. I saw my course mate, John come in. John is a football freak. He’d show me once a small piece of work which he wrote about Real Madrid vs Barcelona match. He’d tell me that he was planning to send it to  sporting gang (They commented on radio about football matches, after being played.) Sometimes I wondered why he studied law, but he’s a brainiac.

    John came and sat near me. I fixed my eyes on the champions league finals match. It was between Real Madrid vs Athletico Madrid. I couldn’t view the T.v. well because of people were standing, and some others who had climbing the long wooden seats. John didn’t seem to mind, he was pressing his phone. Loud cheer filled the bar.

    Soon Real Madrid scored, and a loud cheer rang out. My ears wanted to pull out by reason of the noise.

    Later, Athletico Madrid equalized. The loud cheer rose again, perhaps from Monacho supporters. I knew Barcelona fans will for the first time support Real Madrid, as Athletico removed them from the champions league match.

    I knew that Athletico Madrid equalized back, but I still asked the man sitting at my left hand  what the score were, and he told me. As I and the guy were talking, I began to imagine myself pocket picking the guy. Soon the man frowned his face, and told me to shift away from him. I looked downward, and I saw my hands on the hollows of his right pocket. My hands were stationary. 

    The match had gone half time earlier before the incident happened and my friend, John had gone out to check on something. He’d kind of stay out long.

    I froze for some seconds, before I removed my hands. I began to beg him, but my plea fell on deaf ears. The guy was telling another guy at his back about what just happened. You needed to see the way I was looking at that moment; I looked like a chicken who had just been soaked in very, hot water. The man kept talking angrily, I couldn’t get what he was saying because I was too scared of what might happen; will I be burnt with tyre ?? will I be put in the school sanco ( prison) ??what was John going to think of me on hearing the incident??

    Soon the person he was talking to, calmed him down, telling him that I didn’t mean to steal from him. I kept on starring at the guy on my left. The guy finally calmed down, and few seconds later, John walked in and sat down. I couldn’t help but to let out a sigh of relief.

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  • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:34 pm

    Happy Sunday

  • Kaycee June 4, 2017 at 8:39 pm

    Lol

  • Tanu Goyal June 4, 2017 at 8:58 pm

    Lovedd it 😍😋Was interesting 😊

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:36 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • rowperspective June 4, 2017 at 9:37 pm

    this is so funny! brilliant insight ahah

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • jaivirpandhi June 4, 2017 at 9:44 pm
  • BellyBytes June 4, 2017 at 9:47 pm

    Ha ha ! Ask my grandkids what it’s like to be the grandchild of a blogger! And of course my husband resents my blog as do my children

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      Ask your grandkids and note down their responses for a new post!

      • BellyBytes June 4, 2017 at 11:58 pm

        Good idea! Only they are still toddlers !

  • Dacian June 4, 2017 at 9:48 pm

    Beautiful post! Such an interesting insight! Thanks for sharing!

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:37 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • shreyatripathi June 4, 2017 at 9:50 pm

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  • A. Featherquill June 4, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    Your wife is lucky to have a very supportive husband. Thanks for the post. I appreciate my husband’s support even more. I will thank him and make him read this post.

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:38 pm

      I am absolutely lucky to have such an amazing husband who supports my passions wholeheartedly! Do let me know what your husband says!

  • Ania June 4, 2017 at 10:32 pm

    Beautiful post ⭐️ thank you for sharing🌷

    • Expat Panda June 4, 2017 at 11:39 pm

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Anthony June 4, 2017 at 11:42 pm

    Thanks for putting some reality (and humour) into this. When you wrote that a trip somewhere does not equal a holiday, I understood it. I understood it, but could not really empathize….because I haven’t reached that level of passion yet. Maybe someday…
    Thanks for this post.

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:14 am

      For now just enjoy relaxing on your holidays… Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Rohini June 5, 2017 at 12:05 am

    Hilarious cute and was smiling throughout the post ! Love it 😄

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:14 am

      I am so glad to hear that! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • […] Source: What is it really like to be married to a blogger?  […]

  • Dee3concepts. June 5, 2017 at 1:01 am

    What a piece… For the lovers….

  • naturecoastimagesblog June 5, 2017 at 1:03 am

    I seldom venture more than 10 miles from home base, and I’m happy day to day. Then I read this and think of all there is out there to do and see. Enjoy it!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:15 am

      Try exploring and see what the outcome its! You never know what could happen! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • steppingstones123 June 5, 2017 at 1:30 am

    Beautiful photos! Sounds like a wonderful adventure for you both inspite of the “challenges”. Enjoy! 😊

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:15 am

      As much as both complain, we love it all! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • VB June 5, 2017 at 1:41 am

    I suppose I have a lot to look forward to and have barely scratched the surface yet!! This will be one post I am definitely sharing with my significant other..

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:15 am

      It is great to have something to look forward to! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Sylvia Jo June 5, 2017 at 2:15 am

    I enjoyed your take on this adventure. As a new blogger my husband has kept a safe distance and just makes sure I’m not interrupted when I am writing.

    I leave for work before him so often he sees my illustrations out on the desk and it’s the first thing he asks about when I get home… what was this one about.

    I long for the day this becomes something. More than I’m just starting out, something I spend a few hours on as I rush back to the job

    These pictures are breathtaking!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:16 am

      As your passion grows, so too will you blog. Then your husband won’t be able to pry you away! Keep up the great work. Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • kraveexpression June 5, 2017 at 2:33 am

    Love this

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:17 am

      Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • amybel47 June 5, 2017 at 2:47 am

    Wow…am in awe….never knew it took so much to be married to a blogger, it s really a fun and adventurous lifestyle…am so much in love with this post ….you guys obviously have great chemistry…. fox and panda make a good match. I seriously adore this post! Am not married and just started blogging two days back, but I will definitely share this with my future hubby. I wish you guys more blissful married and blogging life!!!!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:17 am

      Your comment is so touching and beautiful. Wishing you many years of happy blogging and wedded bliss! Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Andrea A. June 5, 2017 at 5:29 am

    A funny yet insightful read! I bet life is adventurous and how surreal to get to capture all the moments with a candid photo and beautiful words – etched in your mind and hearts forever.
    Enjoy each other forever.

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 8:18 am

      It really has been a wonderful adventure thus far… your comment is really touching. Thank you for your kind words and feedback 🙂

  • Anonymous Thinker June 5, 2017 at 10:34 am

    This really adorable. I sure do see a bond between the two of you, through blogging that is. And i get fascinated by the pictures captured by people and your photos, I must say, are beautiful <3

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 11:12 am

      Ah thank you so much for your kind words. My husband & I have been working so hard on our photography for a good many years so your compliment means the world to us!

  • E.J.Smyth June 5, 2017 at 12:34 pm

    I really enjoyed this. You both seem to have a very happy life – good luck for the future!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 1:57 pm

      Ah thank you for your kind words… yes we are pretty happy despite the craziness!

  • dogotek June 5, 2017 at 12:43 pm

    All professions and hobbies can have an affect on life. Blogging adds excitement, adventure and massive Wealth. Right? LOL

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      Excitement and adventure- yes. Massive wealth- not yet!! Yes you are right, lots of factors can affect life especially relationships. Thanks for reading!

  • Harshita Srivastava June 5, 2017 at 2:29 pm

    Now I know how my partner feels! 😛 Great post 🙂

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 5:47 pm

      Haha yes! I think when my husband wrote it, he didn’t realise the amount of people who would identify with this post but I guess that is the beauty of blogging- it allows you to connect with people through your experiences!

  • sourcesurgical2 June 5, 2017 at 2:48 pm

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  • sourcesurgical2 June 5, 2017 at 2:49 pm

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  • crosscountrylifeblog June 5, 2017 at 4:49 pm

    Wow! So lucky!

  • shruti502 June 5, 2017 at 5:26 pm

    The pictures are so beautiful and awesome.Thank you for sharing these stunning shots.Wishing you both a splendid life ahead!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 5:47 pm

      Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback!

  • Liu Min June 5, 2017 at 6:20 pm

    A great post! Loving all the pictures!

    • Expat Panda June 5, 2017 at 9:22 pm

      Thank you for checking it out & leaving a comment!

  • apocketfullofwanderlust June 5, 2017 at 10:39 pm

    I so enjoyed reading this post! Love your connection!!! Way to go guys 😍😍

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 9:05 am

      Thank you so much for your kind words and feedback!

  • thebalancebrigade June 5, 2017 at 10:45 pm

    just fantastic – im showing this to my weary husband!

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 9:05 am

      Haha please do let him know that he is not alone!

      • thebalancebrigade June 6, 2017 at 9:35 am

        Lol! I will & he’ll be very very very happy to hear that!! 🙂

  • Le Blog de Lamia June 5, 2017 at 11:14 pm

    The sweetest thing I’ve read all day! #HusbandGoals 👌🏽

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 9:06 am

      I agree that I am a lucky lady 🙂 Thanks for reading!

  • Erin Bast June 6, 2017 at 12:00 am

    I think my boyfriend could relate to a lot of this, especially tolerating my extensive trip planning and waiting around for me to get the photograph I want.

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 9:06 am

      Do share it with him so he knows he isn’t alone!

  • evolvingtalesbyjasmine June 6, 2017 at 3:03 am

    I loooooove!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 9:06 am

      I am happy to hear that! Thanks for reading 🙂

  • himanshudiaries June 6, 2017 at 11:50 am

    Thanks for sharing this great post with us.
    Wishing you guys a very happy married life 🙂
    I absolutely loved this blog post.

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 11:56 am

      Thank you your kind words and positive feedback. I am so glad that you took the time to read it and loved it!

  • Boss luffy June 6, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    Wow…that is deep…good knowledge…thanks for the tip.

    • Expat Panda June 6, 2017 at 6:56 pm

      Thanks for reading and glad you enjoyed 🙂

  • elviernesdenicole June 6, 2017 at 7:40 pm

    It was AMAZING!!!! Jajajaja I couldn’t stop laughing and relating to my life as blogger. I’m not married, not even soon to be, but I hope my future husband does think this way. I enjoyed every single part of the post. My blog is still new, and it’s been hard for me, but after reading this it only brings me hope. Thank you for sharing you life with the world.

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:16 am

      I am so glad you could relate and found it enjoyable!! I hope this doesn’t scare future hubby away 😀

      • elviernesdenicole June 7, 2017 at 6:55 pm

        I don’t even I have a boyfriend… but I hope that when it comes he’ll be as understanding as yours! Jajajaja

        • Expat Panda June 8, 2017 at 7:48 am

          At least now you know what to aim for 🙂

  • Harsh Kumar June 6, 2017 at 8:07 pm

    Well, very nice post!

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  • theHFCblog June 6, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    Wow. Amazing!
    I really loved this post, especially since I’m from SA, I guess it just hits home for us South African bloggers.

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:17 am

      Hi fellow South African! Nice to hear from someone in my slice of the world 😀

  • scharleelawrence June 6, 2017 at 11:28 pm

    Wow, love your blog. I’m a beginner so I’m trying to learn how to blog also. Really just for the fun of it. Love the photo’s too the information is awesome. You are a lucky man to have a beautiful woman who blogs and you too will be spectacular at it too.

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:18 am

      Thank you so much for your meaningful and kind comment. Yes we are both super lucky to have each other!

  • ljsiewerth June 6, 2017 at 11:39 pm

    I love the conclusion…

  • Reckless Reporter June 7, 2017 at 12:32 am

    Depends on what kind of blogger 🙂 There must be a world of difference between a travel blogger and a video game blogger (I presume)

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:19 am

      That is very true and something worth thinking about.

  • Mort In China Comic June 7, 2017 at 3:51 am

    Nice read!While I was reading your post I couldn’t help thinking “I wish my hubby was as patient when it comes to taking blog photos 😀

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:19 am

      I think it takes a bit of training haha!

  • CC Willa June 7, 2017 at 4:09 am

    Hahahaha! So true. His poem is beautiful. Keep the fun and the adventure 🙂

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 8:20 am

      Thanks so much for reading and for the kind words 🙂

  • ennsportfolio June 7, 2017 at 9:06 am

    Such a beautiful post!

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 11:25 am

      Thank you so much for your feedback as well as all your love on Insta!

  • Gaelle Guyon June 7, 2017 at 2:45 pm

    I love this

  • Bookatic sagar June 7, 2017 at 4:24 pm

    Great content👌

    • Expat Panda June 7, 2017 at 5:49 pm

      I am happy you enjoyed it 🙂

  • ifeelthereforeiamblog June 7, 2017 at 10:50 pm

    This post is so beautifully written! I would love to be in such a nice marriage one day as you two are. Keep travelling and enjoying life together!

    • Expat Panda June 8, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      Thank you for the kind words and warm feedback 🙂

  • ayes56 June 8, 2017 at 11:42 am

    It’s an amazing post with elegant photo shots.I like your quote very much.

    • Expat Panda June 8, 2017 at 5:21 pm

      I am really glad you enjoyed reading it. Thanks for taking time to stop by!

  • brendatuzu June 8, 2017 at 12:48 pm

    Great and interesting piece
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  • agbama June 8, 2017 at 5:45 pm

    Good one. Keep doing it

  • ENGAZE June 8, 2017 at 7:20 pm

    What a great post. I loved looking at the different pictures! I have been to India , and may I say it is one of most colorful countries I’ve ever been to. The transportations , the saris (sp?) , the food … I just felt like another hue of contrast was added in every sight. Anyway, your blog inspires me to continue blogging. I only started a few years ago , but was not very consistant with it. I desire to be a blogger that will inspire others to take a leap and go for what is uncomfortable and might be impossible with men. ✌🏼

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:05 am

      One can only blog effectively when they are motivated so its good that you took a break. A break gives a much needed perspective! Keep up with the blogging and I am sure you will achieve your goals 🙂 Yes India is incredible and indescribable 😀

  • notsosimplelife6 June 9, 2017 at 1:34 am

    You have such a cute and fun-loving blog! I loved the personality and uniqueness of your blog!

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:05 am

      Thank you so much for your kind words and heartfelt comment 🙂

  • Rhoda Ndung'u June 9, 2017 at 7:24 am

    Wonderfully written. I love this!

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:06 am

      Thank you so much for reading!

  • […] Yes it is me again, your friendly neighbourhood fox! After the runaway success of my last post on this blog (hey when you’re good, you’re good!), I decided to share my unparalleled writing […]

  • welcometoeverydaylifewithatwist June 9, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    I love this blog post!!!! I’m a new blogger myself welcometoeverydaylifewithatwist.wordpress.com

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:06 am

      Thank you for reading and glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • grasptheadventure June 9, 2017 at 4:33 pm

    Nicely written!

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:06 am

      Thank you for reading and glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • b. breazeale June 9, 2017 at 7:34 pm

    This actually made me tear up. How much you love your wife is tangible and the way you express it is beautiful..and I kind of want to be her friend. 🙂 You two are inspiring and I absolutely love the last quote. So very, very true. I hope to find that person very soon. In the mean time, I’m starting the process..

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:07 am

      Wow your comment is just so beautiful, it made me feel a bit emotional! Please be this Panda’s virtual friend 🙂 Thank you for reading and glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • Yecheilyah June 9, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    Umm, excuse me, hi, WHAT is that waffle/ ice cream/ banana/ chocolate drizzle thingy? I want it! Lol. Great post.

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:07 am

      Can’t recall what it was, but it sure was delicious (that much I can remember!). Thank you for reading and glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • Gabe Burkhardt June 10, 2017 at 9:38 am

    hehehe You’ve set the bar way to high for us humble bloggers (although my poor wife can relate to the trials and tribulations of being married to an obsessed blogger).

    • Expat Panda June 10, 2017 at 11:10 am

      Haha please share with your wife so she knows she is not suffering alone! Thank you for reading and glad you enjoyed it 🙂

  • TIL.Co June 10, 2017 at 3:47 pm

    I actually had tears by the end and I sent it to my partner. I have recently just decided to follow a blogging path and it has opened me up to a trip around the world to collect and experience wellbeing definitions and journeys… I didn’t know if would, and I feel so alive, but my partner and I are separating for my time. So I sent it to remind them there is always hope for us 🙂

    • Expat Panda June 12, 2017 at 4:13 pm

      Ah that is so heartwarming to hear! Really hope you guys can reunite soon! Thanks for reading and glad you enjoyed this post 🙂

  • Taylor June 10, 2017 at 6:00 pm

    I loved this post. I recently started blogging at the beginning of this year and I have a feeling I will turn into your wife!

    • Expat Panda June 12, 2017 at 4:14 pm

      Haha I don’t think that is a bad thing 😉 Good luck on your blogging journey!

  • esli.co June 10, 2017 at 6:47 pm

    This is so funny! I had my husband read as this is becoming his life now 🙈😂

    • Expat Panda June 12, 2017 at 4:15 pm

      I hope he didn’t run away in despair as he realised what was in store for him 😀

  • TechGalax June 12, 2017 at 12:34 am

    Just speechless

  • payalwanderlust June 12, 2017 at 11:23 am

    Sweet Post..Great job 😊

  • Rutvi Muley June 12, 2017 at 2:07 pm

    I’m sooo jealous looking at all these pictures!! *_*

    • Expat Panda June 12, 2017 at 4:18 pm

      Haha thanks for reading this post 🙂

  • Ugandan Storyteller June 12, 2017 at 9:14 pm

    This is really beautiful.

  • hereistak June 13, 2017 at 1:04 pm

    beautiful post. and i tell you!! blog envy is real

  • Joyce Belfort June 13, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    This is totally hilarious!!! 😀 My CFO used to say “happy wife = happy life” too *LOL* Sounds like you’re a stressed out spouse? haha I’m a South African too! Now life in Paris. I’m a bit home sick. Love Oribi gorge.

  • uhtceare98 June 13, 2017 at 9:02 pm

    Absolutely loved this post!

    https://thelowendofnormal.wordpress.com

  • Melissa Gibbs June 15, 2017 at 1:41 am

    I love this so much. Had so much fun reading and found myself laughing lots! It’s great how encouraging and helpful he is despite it being out if his comfort zone, because it’s something you yourself are passionate about. You’ve got yourself the ultimate husband/best friend right there :p

  • angiabercrombie June 15, 2017 at 5:26 am

    This is fantastic I will surly make my hubby aka Mr. chicken Fry read it also. He is t completely on board …the struggle is real. Lol.

  • chasingchelseae June 15, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    This is beautifully written, you are great at this! #ModernDayRomance

  • headinthedebtadmin June 17, 2017 at 3:41 am

    This was so funny to read 😂 I have followed a lot of youtubers and bloggers and some have their significant others involved or have their own channels/blogs but I have always wondered about what it’s like for the significant others that don’t blog and are just along for the ride!

    Sounds like you two are having an incredible adventure together. All the best!

  • Designerish June 18, 2017 at 5:52 pm

    Lol

  • Deepika June 20, 2017 at 5:56 am

    Love it! My husband is living the read too 😂

  • HistoireChats June 20, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    It’s great to see things from the other’s point of view ! Beautiful post, thank you !

  • Matabi June 30, 2017 at 8:18 am

    What a sweet post!

  • Mantsha July 3, 2017 at 2:09 pm

    My future husband must definitely read this and start Practising photography

  • Katherine July 14, 2017 at 11:08 pm

    “Being married to a blogger, especially a free spirited-wanderlust-chasing-travel blogger, means that you’re married to someone who is a home and an adventure all at once.” – Beautifully written. You make a great couple. Converted to being a follower after this! ❤

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    […] post popular is of course, this one written by Fox about what its like to be married to […]

  • shouldveknown2017 September 5, 2017 at 1:41 am

    Fantastic. Really enjoyed reading this

  • sunshinehawaii September 14, 2017 at 1:39 pm

    Great posts. Out of curiosity (I’m trying to grow my blog too), how did you get your post featured on the wordpress discover page?

  • Oluwakemi Loriade November 6, 2017 at 11:40 pm

    This is a lovely post. Thanks for all you do, Fox (and all the friends, family members and significant others of bloggers/ vloggers who feel the way you do!)

  • Yssamarie February 1, 2018 at 4:28 pm

    This post is wonderful. Life of a blogger was shown and as a husband, Fox you are doing great!BTW, I enjoyed reading this.

  • BubblyMeee March 2, 2018 at 4:34 am

    Exquisitely written. I absolutely love love love this post!!

  • bestofbothworlds88 July 23, 2018 at 3:10 pm

    Absolutely loved this post! Good read on my lunch break… now, I don’t think I can pry myself away and get back to work…!

  • […] Panda’s Penpals. I have had 7 guest writers to date ranging from my ex-husband who wrote this popular post about what its like to be married to a blogger to a university friend of mine who shared her experiences of being a foreigner in my home country […]

  • Travel with Karla April 22, 2019 at 8:43 am

    I and my boyfriend is in a long distance relationship. I’ll send this to him so he will know what to expect when we meet. HAHAHA!

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