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What does being ‘Coloured’ mean in South Africa?

What does being ‘Coloured’ mean in South Africa?

My name is Kelly and I was born in the mid 80’s, in South Africa, Cape Town more specifically. It was during this time that South Africans were finally able to see that the end of the Apartheid era was coming. During the oppressive regime […]

A letter to my next husband: reflections on marrying again

A letter to my next husband: reflections on marrying again

Dear next husband, I am so excited to marry you and so grateful you have come into my life. We are entering the next chapter of our relationship and as someone whose been married before, I know and anticipate all the incredible things coming our […]

Finding shared interests: the struggle of modern relationships

Finding shared interests: the struggle of modern relationships

Most strong-minded people have well defined likes, dislikes, interests, preferences and perspectives. We live in age where we consume information no matter where we turn- from videos to photo to audio, there’s always a message to absorb and as a result, we have developed our […]

Responsible travel: A BASIC guide for dummies

Responsible travel: A BASIC guide for dummies

What is responsible travel? Responsible travel was formally defined in 2002 at a World Summit on Sustainable Development held in Cape Town. It can be simply described as: Travelling with an awareness that we, as travellers, have an effect on the people and places that […]

“Your partner lets you wear THAT?” (And other inane questions I am asked)

“Your partner lets you wear THAT?” (And other inane questions I am asked)

When Expat Polar and I started dating, it was about only a year later that I decided to take our relationship public on my social media. Apart from the devastating divorce I had endured in the recent years of my late twenties (which you can […]

Planning a trip: Panda’s Process  

Planning a trip: Panda’s Process  

  There is no right or wrong way to plan for a trip and each person has their own preferences on how they like to do things. But a lot of people have messaged me saying things like:   “Where do you start looking for […]

Comments, criticism and courage: What it’s like being a desi parent

Comments, criticism and courage: What it’s like being a desi parent

If you’re an Indian person living outside of India, you should be familiar with the term desi. You should know that the word desi—derived from the Ancient Sanskrit word for “country”—is a term used for anything derived from the Indian subcontinent. And my family- with our Indian […]

Dating a desi woman: a non brown guy spills the chai

Dating a desi woman: a non brown guy spills the chai

Hi! My name is Expat Polar Bear, the proud partner of Expat Panda (no she didn’t make me write that). Before we get on with this post, I thought it would be useful to give you info about my background, so you have an understanding […]

Growing up in a western society being brown- but not brown ENOUGH

Growing up in a western society being brown- but not brown ENOUGH

For as long as I can remember I always knew I was of Indian descent. It’s important to note that I knew this before I learnt that I was South African. My family’s bloodline can be clearly traced all the way back to 4 generations […]

Dating after divorce: Panda’s do’s & don’ts

Dating after divorce: Panda’s do’s & don’ts

People always complain that dating is hard. Dating when you’re in your twenties, dating when you’re in college, dating when you’re a single mum… and I don’t disagree- dating is difficult when you consider all the fear factors involved. These may include getting hurt, trust […]