Panda’s ultimate guide to Bollywood for Beginners

Panda’s ultimate guide to Bollywood for Beginners

So you want to impress the Indian love interest in your life? Or maybe it’s your desi mother-in-law that needs some buttering up. Well I am going to help you with my ultimate guide to Bollywood for Beginners! I truly did not know how many…

Why I don’t follow influencers or trust sponsored content

Why I don’t follow influencers or trust sponsored content

If you’ve been a part of my Instagram family for a while, you’ll know that I am 100% anti-influencer. With the constant posts that endorse brands, products & trips that were not self-funded, its not hard to understand why I don’t follow influencers. I had…

Truths about being in an interracial & intercultural relationship

Truths about being in an interracial & intercultural relationship

In a race that loves culture, tradition and marrying ‘your own kind’, interracial relationships are still unusual within the desi culture. People look down on them, even sending condolences if a friend’s child marries a non-desi: ‘Oh, what a shame. Hopefully you’ll have better luck…

“You should do something about your hair”: The struggle of being desi & having curly hair

“You should do something about your hair”: The struggle of being desi & having curly hair

Before we go any further, let me show you what my 7am, natural hair looks like.  So yes I have exceptionally curly hair.  You may be thinking, “Wow that’s lovely hair. She is so lucky! So why is she claiming that there is a struggle…

Dear Desi woman getting married… here are the things no one is telling you

Dear Desi woman getting married… here are the things no one is telling you

Dear Desi woman on the brink of marriage, Congratulations on this exciting time in your life! Maybe you’ve been dating your partner for a while and or maybe your engagement was a surprise to you; maybe you are fresh out of high school or perhaps…

What does being ‘Coloured’ mean in South Africa?

What does being ‘Coloured’ mean in South Africa?

My name is Kelly and I was born in the mid 80’s, in South Africa, Cape Town more specifically. It was during this time that South Africans were finally able to see that the end of the Apartheid era was coming. During the oppressive regime…

A letter to my next husband: reflections on marrying again

A letter to my next husband: reflections on marrying again

Dear next husband, I am so excited to marry you and so grateful you have come into my life. We are entering the next chapter of our relationship and as someone whose been married before, I know and anticipate all the incredible things coming our…

Finding shared interests: the struggle of modern relationships

Finding shared interests: the struggle of modern relationships

Most strong-minded people have well defined likes, dislikes, interests, preferences and perspectives. We live in age where we consume information no matter where we turn- from videos to photo to audio, there’s always a message to absorb and as a result, we have developed our…

Responsible travel: A BASIC guide for dummies

Responsible travel: A BASIC guide for dummies

What is responsible travel? Responsible travel was formally defined in 2002 at a World Summit on Sustainable Development held in Cape Town. It can be simply described as: Travelling with an awareness that we, as travellers, have an effect on the people and places that…

“Your partner lets you wear THAT?” (And other inane questions I am asked)

“Your partner lets you wear THAT?” (And other inane questions I am asked)

When Expat Polar and I started dating, it was about only a year later that I decided to take our relationship public on my social media. Apart from the devastating divorce I had endured in the recent years of my late twenties (which you can…